C'mon, ladies, give Gwyneth a break. Is her website "Goop" ripe for ridicule? Sure. I guess. Is her penchant for pontificating off-putting? Yeah. But, while she announced her "Conscious Uncoupling" from husband Chris Martin after 10 years of marriage she began getting pounded from mothers nationwide for another blog of hers, and I happen to think she made some very real, very valid points in said blog. And, OK, for the record, I happen to think she's gorgeous, especially as denim-short-sporting Pepper Potts in the "Iron Man" films.
Read the blog in question, and one mom's "open letter to Paltrow," here, courtesy of the NY Post: http://bit.ly/1i085vJ
Gwyneth describes the life of a 9-to-5 mom as one more conducive to being a parent than that of a successful actor. Is she wrong? Sure, she's got the payday, and the nanny and the bringing the kid(s) to the set (when they're YOUNG), but this line in particular resonated with me: "When you have an office job, it’s routine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning and when you come home in the evening.”
Ladies...SHE'S RIGHT. My late mother vacuumed every night after her 9-5, and washed the floors Saturday mornings before she left for THAT job. Ours is a generation of martini-swilling mommies who can organize a "kid-free happy hour" with college friends far easier than they can the duties tied directly to running a home, never mind with all the yelling involved.
Paltrow added: “When you’re shooting a movie, they’re like, ‘We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,’ and then you work 14 hours a day, and that part of it is very difficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set.” Where are her claws? They're not out as far as I can see. Actors ARE whisked off at a moment's notice and gone for three months, only to return hom for the next six months with nothing but time on their hands, but often also a child who thinks the nanny is their REAL mom.
I just think all the snarling at Paltrow with regard to her depiction of the 9-5 mom's challenges, especially compared to the movie actor's, is misdirected. Many moms my age are just plain overwhelmed. They get angry at themselves for being overwhelmed, and then lash out at everyone in their immediate vicinity, which is usually the kids and the husband. Never their mother though. Because they don't want their mother to know that they're struggling with something she managed to do with far less fuss. And God forbid they complain to Grandma. See, she's part of the generation that fought for women to be able to work in the FIRST PLACE.